Stress

Who isn't talking about stress these days? "Will I have a job? Will I be able to pay my bills? Will I be able to put my kids through college? Will I feel better soon? Will I have enough money to retire? Are my children safe? Do I really have to worry about terrorism? Will my marriage end in divorce?"

Stress affects every area of our lives -- from work to family life. It is a normal part of life and often comes and goes with circumstances. When stress persists for long periods of time, we begin to wear out. We find we are thinking and worrying at night and not sleeping well which can become a vicious cycle of fatigue and anxiety that is self-perpetuating. We feel irritable and frustrated. Life isn't fun like it used to be. We are moving constantly with no end in sight or feel like we are overwhelmed and paralyzed. These feelings of stress can lead us down a dark path to illness or depression.

So how do we handle our stress before it controls our lives? Here are some tips that really do help!

1. Schedule down time. Like we have to schedule a doctor's appointment or a haircut, we also have to make sure we save time during our week to have some rest and relaxation. Even God rested and yet we expect more from ourselves. Part of down time is having fun and laughing. Research has proven that people who laugh live longer. Laughing actually lowers the levels of hormones which are associated with a stress response. Fun doesn't have to cost money. Invite friends over to have a "game" day. Everyone can bring snacks and a game to share and have fun!
2. Take deep breaths. We were always told by parents and teachers to do that when we were upset as kids and it is more than a "wife's tale." Deep breathing relaxes your muscles. Studies have shown that someone who is stressed uses shallow breathing which can lead to high blood pressure. Deep breathing involves bringing air into the lungs while expanding the stomach rather than expanding the chest and lifting the shoulders. It relaxes your neck and shoulder muscles and releases endorphins which are your body's natural pain killers. Deep breathing can also clear your mind of thoughts that can be troubling or worrisome.
3. Talk with someone. Worries carried alone are a heavy load. Talk with someone about your problems and worries. It is always good to get another person's perspective. Sometimes we have blind spots or are minimizing strengths while maximizing weaknesses and we need to replenish balance. Counselors are trained to help you see your blind spots and help you help yourself. Sometimes just writing things down can put things in perspective. Research has taught us that journaling is a great way of relieving stress and making sense of life. And don't forget prayer. Prayer, like meditation, is calming. Giving your cares to God can make you feel positive and proactive. What better friend is there with which to share your worries?
4. Eat Chocolate. This is one of my favorite suggestions! Did you know that chocolate (especially dark chocolate) releases endorphins into the brain which helps lessen pain and decrease stress levels? Chocolate also works on other neurotransmitters that increase mood and decrease depression without addictive properties. (Though some swear they are definitely addicted!)

In conclusion, stress is a normal part of our busy lives but can cause many health and psychological problems if out of control. There are many solutions you can try to control your stress. If those are not working for you, please get the help of a trained professional like a Counselor to discuss other ways of controlling your stress before it controls you.

P.S. Here is one of my favorite Chocolate sites: Katherine Anne Confections at www.katherine-anne.com

Enjoy!!